Another observation I have, is that these women have everything under control (if you don't count their eating). They are generally managers, and are considered super mom's by their peers. They have everything under control and never miss a beat.
Many woman have an emotional side. They have moments where they just are overwhelmed and they break down and cry. But not usually these very successful women I have been coming across. They don't cry. They just suck it up and deal with it.
This is where I believe the problem lies. As humans, we are meant to feel emotion. Sometimes the emotions feel like crap, but we were meant to feel. I believe these successful women have troubles losing weight because instead of feeling their emotions, they stuff their emotions down with food.
Food is often used instead of feeling. Ask a kids, if we hurt ourselves, or were bitterly disappointment, our mom may have given us a cookie to make us feel better. When we are older, and we are pissed off at a boyfriend, we turn to our friend Ben & Jerry. See where I'm going here?
Instead of these successful women having a moment and feeling their emotions, maybe having a good cry when they've had a bad day, they eat instead. Then they don't let go and let the emotions out. They stuff the emotions down, and say how strong they are, see how successful they are, they can deal with anything, and don't 'lose it'.
Now I'm not saying that women should 'lose it' and any given moment, especially at the office. But I believe these women should take some time for themselves later in the day perhaps, and go off by themselves (if necessary) and scream, shout, cry... anything and let out the stress, frustration and struggles. It may feel week to cry, but it is also cleansing.
Now think about your own life. Are you successful, except at weight loss. Really think about it... could you be using food to cover up deep down emotions? Give is a try sometime. Let yourself have a good cry, even if it may be over something totally insignificant. See if you feel a release after your done.
By Adriana Ellis. Adriana is a Certified Life Coach, Certified Weight Loss Coach, Certified Nutrition Coach and Nationally Certified Food Addictions Coach. Adriana teaches her clients how to change their thinking and habits to help them feel better in life and lose weight. www.attunedws.com
